HEALING OUR SEXUAL SELVES for Individuals

CLAIM YOUR AUTHENTIC SEXUALITY

– Without collapsing into what you think your partner wants…

– Without the guilt and shame of religion and dominant beliefs…

– Without letting your ghosts haunt your bedroom….

Instead, start with clarifying your most pleasurable sexual self and holding space for your fears and desires

FOR INDIVIDUALS FOR WHOM SEX IS IMPORTANT

People in All Bodies, of All Expressions, and in All Relationship Dynamics Are Invited & Welcome.

Non-Gendered and Inclusive Language is Used Throughout.

Yoga mats, some pillows, chairs with and without arms are available. Please share access needs and how I can support you. Please share access needs and how I can support you.

FOR QUEER FOLK, ASEXUAL PEOPLE, HETEROSEXUALS, MARRIED PEOPLE, SEX WORKERS AS WELL AS THOSE PRACTICING CNM OR MONOGAMY

DURING THIS WORKSHOP, identify who you are in the bedroom right now, who your partner wants you to be, and who you are when your sexuality is given alllll the permission to experience pleasure, desire, and arousal exactly the way you want to without getting frozen in performance.

This experience will support you to illuminate what’s in the dark by clarifying, connecting, and healing around your sexual selves. We’ll go through:

• A gestalt-inspired sexual archetypes practice with four pillows or chairs
• Holding space to experience four different angles around our highest sexual expression to understand ourselves better and feel what’s holding us back

Here are the details of what you can expect:

• CREATE YOUR SPACE: Before you arrive and as we start, you’ll be invited to create a space—ideally in your bedroom, and the couch or kitchen table works, too—where you feel comfortable and safe enough. You can also bring what invites the most presence and connection for you. Having a candle to light sets an energetic intention to focus on yourself.
• INTRO: I will introduce myself as well as why we’re gathered live and online in service of collective belonging.
• SHIFTING & INTENTION-SETTING: We’ll begin with a guided meditation for meeting yourself and coming into presence and connection as well as naming our intentions.
• RESOURCING, ARRIVING, & ORIENTING: I’ll guide you to locate a resource within you or just outside of you for any time you feel overwhelmed, panic, or a sense of flashback during the workshop or after. We’ll finish by arriving and orienting to the space before we move on.
• SEXUAL ARCHETYPES EXERCISE: Move through a gestalt-inspired exercise by placing four pillows on the floor or four chairs in a diamond shape to see and then embody: 1) Who you are in the bedroom right now 2) Who your partner wants you to be around sex 3) Your highest, most pleasurable, most alive and confident sexual self
• EXPLORING THE DIFFERENT ANGLES PRACTICE: Next, you will take turns on each of the four pillows or chairs to connect with what’s holding you back from stepping more fully into your authentic sexual self from each of these spaces: 1) Fears 2) Inner child 3) Desires 4) Higher wisdom
• RECAP & AFTERCARE: You will be given time to process and/or write around the following topics: What did you experience? What did you feel? What did you learn? What would support you to feel cared for, supported, safer, and more grounded in yourself as you finish the workshop and head into the rest of your day?
• EXPLORE MORE ON YOUR OWN: As we come to a close, I’ll give you a sense of what to expect while continuing to process and integrate this experience. You’ll receive an email from me within 24 hours with additional offerings for support.

ABOUT YOUR FACILITATOR:

Daniela (she/they) is a certified Sex and Intimacy Coach, speaker, and writer practicing somatic abolitionism and appropriated tantra.

Named one of the ten best Sex and Intimacy Coaches of 2023 by DatingAdvice.com, she supports couples and individuals to experience deep sexual connection and intimacy with themselves and with their partner(s).

With over twenty-four years of experience coaching people one-on-one and teaching in college classrooms and yoga studios, she curates exercises and practices steeped in somatic attachment theory, neuroscience, embodied conflict resolution, trauma healing, modern psychology, and ancient tantric and taoist wisdom.

Daniela is a queer cisgendered woman raced as white born in the Bay Area as well as a biological and transnational adoptive parent of three.

She lives and works as an uninvited guest on occupied Ohlone land that’s known as San Jose, California in the United States.

For her, nothing is more important than connection.

Website: DanielaStevens.com

Social Media: @danielastevensnow